OUR GRANDMOTHER'S SKILL- BE CALM BUT NOT STILL

I'm stubborn because I speak my mind.

I'm proud because after he speaks, I say mine.

Actually, you're. You're proud and you're stubborn. I know this is a serious painful truth many ladies do not want to accept and a serious painful truth many men do not know how to convey. It is up to who is in search of the truth to find it.

I'd begin this piece with two questions.

 Who is a man? Who is a woman? 

Ask yourself this questions. I believe you must have answered this questions based on your own gender but the truth about this questions is to bring us to the realization that we're all human, equal being before our creator but the major difference is the functions we perform. The functions denotes our working organ which gives us just two genders we have today and denotes our strength. The difference humans created for themselves is the EGO we have created for ourselves. The man thinks he is the strongest. The woman thinks she's been cheated and so she becomes adamant and tries to convey her message in an inappropriate manner.

I used to be like that. I like to speak my mind not minding exactly what you have to say. I'm always impatient, wouldn't listen till I am heard first and so people started misinterpreting my personality for being proud, stubborn, arrogant, filled with myself and self centered. I was furious and I decided to look into this matter. I knew one thing for sure, if one or two persons can lie, all of them can't. So I decided to study myself and other women starting from my mum.

Women in general has lots of qualities that brings them together, so trust me you can predict the behavior of 20 women from just a woman. The probabilities are high, at least 80 to 20 chances. I've deduced few common characteristic of woman in our time which allows them look like they lack home training. The few common characteristics are centered to just one; IMPATIENCE.

Men who recognizes this do not also process the act properly, they think women wants to be lord in the home and they only want to be heard.

The best way yet hard is UTMOST PATIENCE. I know it's hard, you might even look like a fool but trust me it's just for a while. Let him have it his way! Let him talk! Let him do whatever!!! But always be sensitive to that perfect timing you're cool and his cool and there is the time to let yours out. 

An African adage say "if we want to set up our cooking according to how long and big a snake is, we will set the house on fire"

I am still learning it, sometimes I cry because I'm being misunderstood but that time isn't just the time. This is the only skill our Grand mothers used to win our fathers of those days but because the world is evolving, we think their methods are old

 and doesn't matter but it does.

Be calm but don't be still.

Moyosoluwa