GENERAL QUALITIES OF THOSE ELIGIBLE FOR DATING

My name is Moyosoluwa Olabode, recent graduate of Obafemi Awolowo University,Ile-Ife Osun state,Nigeria.

I am not a therapist or a psychologist but I am who I am due to my experiences and the extent I have been able to absorb results, lesson learned and taught from life experiences. So, read with almost faith.

Often times, we repeat mistakes not because we didn't learn but because we didn't look at some factors of causation in those mistakes. To be able to read this post, you must firstly learn how to be the third judge in any matter at all, yourself, your partner and a second reflection of you not controlled by your emotions or the situation,that can to some extent scrutinize the matter without bias. It is possible.

Now general qualities of those eligible for relationship. Note: there are still many others but these are the most important considering the parts of human beings that do not like to communicate through issues.

Number 1: YOUR ABILITY TO REFLECT YOURSELF THROUGH YOUR CREATOR;

I often use the word "creator" because our generation is almost not conscious about the personality of God, so they feel more comfortable with the term "Creator". There's no other way to it, you don't know God, you don't know yourself and you can't know anyone else. Your ability to reflect on yourself, to see yourself through God will give you the template to live first as an human being and also how to relate with others. As a child of God, you know your default settings is to always Love. As a child of God, you have the one above all to talk to. As a child of God, you have everyone's creator guiding you through decisions even about what to say or do.

          God replicated Himself in us and until we see that, finding love and relationship with others will be quite difficult because when you hear of partners cheating on one another, it is because they never understood what their Father in heaven said about adultery and fornication and related topics, when you see partners keeping long grudges it is because they do not get the point where God instructs us to forgive one another so He can forgive us too and etc about issues that occurs around that. So, firstly you must reflect yourself through God.

Number 2: YOUR ABILITY TO INDIVIDUALIZE;

I talked about this in the recent post, titled;HAPPINESS ISN'T FREE UNTIL YOU'VE FOUND INDIVIDUALITY. 

          You can read the post to understand more about the power of been yourself first before sourcing another being to compliment you, in other words you must be sufficient as a whole not a better half as people say it today. You must be a better whole for another whole.

Number 3: STRIKING IDEAS;

I am not a football fan but I appreciate strikers in this sport, I appreciate how fast and skillfully swift they're on the field. It's almost like they leave no stone upturned.

         These relates to individuals outside sports, if you're a dull person(which is possible you can) you are not eligible. Seriously, do you consider a serious issue that needs striking ideas almost immediately displayed in wisdom and then you water the ground with all round stupidity and immaturity. Please don't imagine! For my kind of person I hate dull Men, they naturally make me angry because I believe that so as Women should be at the fore front, Men too should and with the world changing and progressing knowledge and intelligence quotient is needed to be stepped up.

Number 4: A PRAYER MACHINE;

Aside the fact that we have different religion and gods, all of them pray. They pray because of somethings that can not be controlled physically but can be spiritually. Only a foolish man says the spiritual does not exist. The coming together of two people is a spiritual bonding.

       As Christians(if you're), we understand the essence of prayer and how it builds up our faith and our spirit man. If you're not a prayerful person, the other sides to this world would swallow you up completely,they'll do it so slow you'd not notice on time. Be with someone that prays, you must enjoy prayers, you must always be in contact with God in prayers. The world is filled with battles to be won and as two are planning to become one, it's another sweet organization the devil hates, so praying together and most importantly separately strongly spiritually backs your relationship. 

Number 5: CONSCIOUSLY WORK ON YOUR LOOK;

Nobody want a ugly partner, no easier way to say this but no one wants somebody that is not presentable. As individuals, you must be pretty, you must be handsome, it is a must. Love rarely sets in for ugly people. When I mean ugly people, I mean those who haven't found their style. Find your style, as a guy does your jean and round neck suit your body type? As a lady, do eye lashes fit your type of face? These things we should know ahead before we misrepresent ourselves and looks unworthy of the love approaching.

Others are;

Number 6: CHARACTER;

Not only a woman should be conscious of how she behaves but also a man too, the society focuses more on the women and men are at liberty to misbehave. Both parties should deliberately work on their character not only for their partner but for themselves as well.

Number 7: FINANCE;

Sister! Brother! Hustle Oooo!!! Mostly women understand this part better than Men and are mostly interpreted as loving money and they do not understand that Romance is Finance. For a smooth relationship, check your finance, you'll need to be on dates, you'll need to take care of bills, you'll need to buy stuffs to suit your style etc, men also like money they just don't talk about it.

Number 8: SEXUAL READINESS 

Number 9: HIGH AND SENSITIVE  COMMUNICATION SKILL

Number 10: CHECK YOUR FAMILY

            THANK you ❤-Moyosoluwa