Moyosoluwa Talk

" the quality or character of a particular person or thing that distinguishes them from others of the same kind, especially when strongly marked" Have you asked yourself what makes you, You? Lot of us have been through experiences which mostly end result is pain that has molded how we think and see people, our foresight has fallen short of possible results ahead because of these experiences of pain and regrets sometimes. When we finally get it out of our system we might have forgotten where exactly we stopped living our lives and what exactly we did or were doing that made us, Us. That is what I am here to talk about.           Growing up(still growing) for some of you that know my story will know I was baptized with depression for what ever reason I had but luckily and fortunately I happen to be sensitive to things people rarely say but they're going through them,especially a struggle. Maybe because I have been there.  I noticed after the ...

The moment I knew I was alone was the moment my phones stopped ringing early in the mornings and maybe the whole day, the one high esteemed had gone and it was an experience my life had to morn for a long time. There are times in our lives we had these people, there are times we don't. So what is companionship really? In my own words;  "companionship is an ability. An ability to commune with the deepest part of yourself,finding your individuality and dwelling in comfort with your presence, which someday can be shared with a related soul"-Moyosoluwa. Many of us mistake companionship for relationship and most times love, from third party. If you're in this category, you'll constantly allow the ones that can not relate with your soul hurt you more than you can imagine. I meet an average of 20 to 30 ladies per day and about 10 to 15 men per day and these is one of the things that bothers them, well the men do no say it directly but it all boils down to ...

You know you can't take it no more, I wouldn't say you should. You can never find love, I wouldn't say you can not. You can say there's no hope, but who I'm I to affirm that,what if... Everyone got a story, a gist, a long time discussion even a presentation that fully describes there journey of pain with different people in this cruel world but I woke one day and said to myself, I need a success story too(which mean others have attained it too), I know I need love, I know I want to love and I'll do it. From my experience of two brutal failed relationships let say 10years all together, I'm supposed to retire and just tell myself I'm done! This is not an inspirational articule, at least not yet. No. It's to tell you to try. I'm still trying. I don't want to know your pain but everyone even those that hurt you are looking forward to seeing your happy ending, why not let Bella Naija carry our own love story in it's source from ...

My name is Moyosoluwa and I am a foodie! Lol. Food is actually one of the things that's keeping me alive, obviously we all need food to survive but there are few meals that penetrates into your soul and spirit and you come alive. These meals helps you relax, it helps you remember one of the things to live for, it strengths your taste skills and makes you kill boredom in the kitchen. I don't know if this recipe already does exit but I came up with this meal myself. Now to the ingredients for the plantain sauce, you'll need the following; Ripe plantain(chopped) Stock fish(Eja kika) Grounded pepper Locust beans Onion Curry & thyme Tomato paste Chopped carrots Few green pepper to enhance the colour Palm oil Salt & maggi Steps; put up a fine pot(I love to prepare special meals with uniquely looking pots, it boosts my moral) on your cooking gas, pour your desired oil and wait to bleach, add your chopped onion,locust beans and curry & thyme. In a...

Many of us are battling with depression and we don't know, yes it's possible. We suffer from different psychological stress and dispute which does not leave tracks on our body but our soul,heart and mind. This particular one I'm interested in is common among young people. One that hasn't gone through poverty wouldn't know the importance of wealth and also one who hadn't been terribly hungry would not understand the importance of food. Just like feelings. Many think it's silly, especially when they hear the depressed talk. It's not at all. Been addicted to been loved is a serious psychological issue many are going through and they're fighting war within them that many others can't phantom and they're frustrated because most of them do not understand what they were doing in that period of love seeking. Been addicted to been loved is simply been addicted to wanting to be loved. People suffering this stress are undergoing lots of pre...

I'm stubborn because I speak my mind. I'm proud because after he speaks, I say mine. Actually, you're. You're proud and you're stubborn. I know this is a serious painful truth many ladies do not want to accept and a serious painful truth many men do not know how to convey. It is up to who is in search of the truth to find it. I'd begin this piece with two questions.   Who is a man? Who is a woman?  Ask yourself this questions. I believe you must have answered this questions based on your own gender but the truth about this questions is to bring us to the realization that we're all human, equal being before our creator but the major difference is the functions we perform. The functions denotes our working organ which gives us just two genders we have today and denotes our strength. The difference humans created for themselves is the EGO we have created for ourselves. The man thinks he is the strongest. The woman thinks she's been cheated...

"Unforgiveness is like taking poison and expecting another person to die" As a young girl I have lot's of dreams,goals and I had lot's of happiness to go round. I didn't know the extent of such happiness I had, until I saw another girl exactly my own age when I used to be filled with so much happiness and joy, it's beautiful I tell you. After so many issue of life, love hunting and finding, I thought it was in a good place. I guess I was so happy I foolishly made some decisions I thought I was doing for love, I thought I was happy but dear Lord it looked like it. I thought I was safe but dear Lord,it looked like it. Now, I have become a venom filled with REGRETS, HATE, ANGER, SELF PITY, BADLUCK, BAD MOUTH, INSULTS,SHAME etc. That is all I see in me with no single drop of Love. The kind of pain I used to feel was more than my body could bare,most times after soiling in my tears in my bed I feel like the anger wants to tear my body apart, throw me far...

" The ability to raise capital is not enough to get out of poverty- Moyosoluwa" What is poverty? According to Merriam Webster Dictionary: This is a state of being poor or a state where by an individual lacks something. I love how it's been illustrated, a state of being poor. Didn't say anything about money, capital, legal tender, or wealth. It simply what you lack that is very essential for your survival obviously. Do you think it's only money you need to survive? Read on. I have asked plenty of times these following questions; Why are Rich people not happy? Why are Poor people too not happy? Very true a rich man clearly has what a poor man doesn't but apparently funny life, the poor also has what the rich too doesn't have. So where's the balance? What is the generality? How do we come to know what we're actually lacking? The psychology behind poverty includes;POWERLESSNESS, VOICELESSNESS, DEPENDENCY, SHAME AND HUMILIATION et...

I'm so lonely,nobody loves me. Since nobody loves me, no one would need me. Statistically speaking; the highest number of depressed people are young adult,from about age 16 to 21. They're adolescent who sees themselves as grown ups and one of the needs of young adults amongst many is "a sense of belonging". They want to feel love and to love,they cherish companionship even though they don't know what it takes. They want it at all cost. This need is biological, how? I'll tell us. When a child begins to grow and attains the stage of being an adolescent,there's a trigger in the side of the brain called the hypotalamus, this trigger then creates the release of sexual hormone in the boys it's called "androgen" and the girls its called "estrogen". It is the brain trigger and release of the sexual hormone that brings about the brain to make such person think he or she is alone. Why is it like that? I have asked God too...

People Forget I said if you'd be ever tired of beans, you said no. You said I was like your beans, you'll never be tired of me. But I forgot, people forget. It's not promises not kept but promises forgotten, people forget- Moyosoluwa

"I have a friend, is he my friend? Is she in fact my friend? I think we're just roommates, class mates or school mates. Maybe it should remain like that." Maybe it should but maybe it should not. Remember, you're better off... Wait! Wait!! Don't be angry just yet. We would be enlightened soon enough.  What is a NARSCISSIT? According to Merriam Webster dictionary, it was simply put as "Egoism, Egocentrism" Being Egocentric is too much care for ones self and not about other people. I hope I have established the picture of being NARSCISSIT to you, now to business.  It's actually not the fault of either your egocentric friend or you but as you are getting to know Moyosoluwa, she'll explain using her life experience, yes my life experience.  I have a friend in school, he is a guy. Met him through a friend in part one, we were quite close and we do almost all academics work together until he changed. He just changed. It was drastic...

OFFENDED SOULS THEY'RE THE WORSE TO HURT, THE WORSE TO SHARE SECRETS AND ALSO TELL LIFE EXPERIENCES. THEY'RE ALWAYS ANGRY IN THEIR SPIRIT BUT YOU'LL NEVER KNOW BECAUSE THEY CAN STILL EMOTIONALLY KISS YOU. THEY WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE TRAPPED BY YOUR OWN DOING- Moyosoluwa

I will not forgive him, I will not forgive her. She promised me alot, He promised me alot. I have loved but this son and daughter of a b***h threw my love away, I am so unfortunate to have loved this person. O yes you're unfortunate to have loved that person but yet fortunate you did because you're going to learn something out of that today. Without dogging around, lets see a scenario. Imagine! Just imagine!  Imagine a boy who was abandoned by his mum when he was a little child, while still suckling. He grew up knowing different faces, from his grandma, to his aunties and his uncles to neighbors etc. Just imagine and just imagine.  Life must have been a tough one for him, he continued and grew up as a man.  Pause! Remember he was abandoned by his mother, first hate from questions like; why was I abandoned? Did she hate me? Or I wasn't good enough? With all that, it is registered in his brain ANYONE CAN LEAVE AND HE CAN SURVIVE WITHOUT ANYONE . Remember, he gre...